My boyfriend/ex (it's complicated) is reading it at the same time and said he cried many times as he's been reading it because it's putting how he's felt in our relationship into words that he couldn't do himself. So I started reading 'walking on eggshells' last week and immediately felt attacked and hated the author for having no empathy for us. If you are a healthcare professional or researcher, this book might not teach you much. For this person, this book could be quite helpful. So the target audience is the person who believes their loved one has borderline or narcissism, believes they themselves are to blame for everything that happens in the relationship.

The only point I will make here is that it might be a good idea to add a pdf with references and websites and such, instead of reading each URL aloud.

Also, I don't agree with some of the advice on this topic. Given that many people with borderline have frequent interaction with healthcare, I find this subject glossed over rather superficially. The reader is constantly reassured and less emphasized is a more critical approach to oneself. From this assumption, it is always assumed that criticism the loved one provides is not the point of any conversation, because it must be based on out-of-control emotions. Also, the assumption is made that the reader is psychologically healthy and that their loved one has borderline or narcissism. The hard decisions are not given as much attention in my opinion. There is a lot of reasonable advice, but it all seems self-evident and easy to do.

Protect yourself and others from violent behavior.

Stand up for yourself and assert your needs.

This compassionate guide will enable you to: This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life.

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is yes, someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD) - a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.

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